© Wendy Clark, 2025

The closest I have ever come to being persecuted for my faith was a teacher making me feel uncomfortable for my views on the value of life, a professor warning me to not “take the Bible too seriously,” a classmate rolling his eyes at me over something I said I believe. None of these things are real persecution.

I have experienced being mocked for being “good” or for doing good or for trying to help someone. In seeking to serve others, I’ve been accused of not helping “the right way” or “enough” or of helping the “wrong” person or people. I’ve been told that by helping I am the one responsible for the bad actions of another person.

All of these things can be discouraging, but if you are being obedient to God’s commands and are serving the broken and hurting around you, don’t be discouraged when doing so becomes difficult. Serving broken people is not easy, and it is often a thankless job. Sometimes the people that you reach out to help will turn on you, become angry, maybe even lie about you. They may be manipulative or harsh in their criticism of you. 

Serve others anyway.

If you live for rewards in this life, you will give up when the person you step out to care for is thankless, selfish, spiteful. But if you can remember that none of what you do is about you, that the goal goes far beyond the here and now, you will be able to stand even in the midst of lies or hurtful accusations.

So many things that others say and do can feel personal, and though words and actions might be directed at you, they often aren’t even about you. So while you should assess your part in any conflict you have with others, don’t take on the responsibility that belongs to someone else. Don’t consider yourself guilty just because a broken person says that you are. Remember that broken people say and do broken things, and that very often they aren’t ready to take responsibility for their own feelings and words and actions.

It’s easier to help people who are physically, financially, socially, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually healthy. But have you noticed that those aren’t the people who really need help? The people who need help have problems, real problems. Their problems aren’t easily solved, often have a long history, and usually run deep. They have problems because they don’t have it all together. 

And their problems might be their “fault.” They haven’t done the kinds of things that result in physical, financial, social, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. They might not “deserve” help. But they are often desperate for help. They are often stuck, and without help, they won’t be able to move forward. And sadly, often with help, they won’t take the steps that they need to take to move forward.

Be willing to help anyway.

Pay attention, and don’t fall into doing more than the person you are trying to help is willing to do. Reach out your hand, but wait for the other person to grab onto it. If a person is stuck in a pit, don’t jump down in it and try to comfort the person there. The goal is to encourage and draw the person to climb out of the pit and to help the person on that upward climb. 

All of this must be done with fervent and consistent prayer. God knows what the broken person needs. You see only a tiny bit of what is going on, so pray for wisdom all along the way.

And when you are investing time and energy in a person and that person decides to go in an unexpected direction, don’t let the disappointment or even the sense of betrayal you might feel keep you from doing what God has called you to do and being who God has called you to be. Serve others even when it seems a thankless task. Serve others because you serve the Lord Jesus Christ who gave Himself up for you, and know that He promises that there are rewards for you in Eternity. Eternal rewards.

Always keep Eternity in mind. Know that the only real hope you have to offer someone is the Gospel of Jesus Christ–the very good news that through the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross for our sins, we can be reconciled to God. The Holy Spirit will come into our lives and begin to transform the way we think, the way we see the world. Over time, our desires will change, and if we give attention to the Word of God, we will become more like Jesus and more aligned with God’s plans, and God’s purposes, and God’s ways. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, people really do change.

So don’t lose heart. Don’t give up. Don’t stop praying, and don’t stop loving and serving. Remain steadfast and faithful, knowing that it’s always worth it to do the will of a good, gracious, generous, and loving God. 

“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith” (Galatians 6:9-10).

“Such is the confidence that we have through Christ toward God. Not that we are sufficient in ourselves to claim anything as coming from us, but our sufficiency is from God, who has made us sufficient to be ministers of a new covenant, not of the letter but of the Spirit. For the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life (2 Corinthians 3:4-6). Therefore, having this ministry by the mercy of God, we do not lose heart” (2 Corinthians 4:1).